Thank-you. I must say that if the sucess of DBing is in getting your spouse back it seems that there isn't a very good sucess rate. I think the lack of available person-to-person therapists and the biased shoulder play major factors in that.
I still haven't figured out what I can do differently at this time about this girl. I don't know what kind of 180 I could pull. I had tried talking to her, moving the relationship forward, and got the "you're pushing me" attitude.
On Aug. 5th I ordered a funny shirt to be shipped directly to her and the 7th is the last time she talked to me. The ordered had already been processed and shipped so I couldn't stop the shirt from being delivered and she got it on the 15th.
So now I haven't talked to her at all in three weeks and had zero form of contact for two weeks. Only thing I think back on is LRT and the concept of "if you're not sure what to do, do nothing".
That logical part of me goes, "she uses drugs, has kids which I've never been interested in before, and she's shut me out, so why bother" but everytime I try to forget her I can't. I've become spiritual and I've asked for guidance and to help me forget her but nothing, she's in my head every day.
As far as getting a life goes I've tried the best I can with my work schedule. I'm stuck now because I have taken an interest in yet another girl so now I'm REALLY torn.
Yup, sure I'm going to get lectured more on how I'm not really ready to be dating anybody.
