Just want to add my 0.02 I all of a sudden feel no need to control anymore,or snoop and confront. I have come to realize that if my H wants to run out on our marriage and our family and everything that we have built in the last 25 years it is HIM, that will come to realize what it is he has given up. Although the last couple of weeks I have noticed positive changes in H, I am not going to let my guard down. My new motto is "It is what is is" and I cant change a thing. It does make a hugh difference when you can finally admit that the only thing you can control is yourself. It has taken me my whole life to get it. I may fall down from time to time but I will always get back up!!!!! and I won't let anyone push me down again. The road for me has been long. But I'm finally getting it. I stand for my marriage and want it more than anything but if he walks,as much as it will hurt me and it will, I'll get back up.
