My XW has given me an apology that is global at best and a little self-serving at worst.
I am not sure I see the self serving part of the letter MHL….because maybe I think she is truly sorry for what she has done. Consider this, as an LBS’er when the bomb drop we apologize and ask for forgiveness for all of our mistakes….what makes her letter any different. Maybe…she is remorseful but does not want to come back? Does that make her apology self serving? My other comment are…Antonia said it best with this……
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What else could you say? If there is ANY part of you at all, even ONE IOTA that thinks you have it in you to explore reconciliation at some point, I think you could write something that leaves it all open.
You can simply thank her, say that it must have been hard to say that, and say that if she wants to talk to you in more depth, you would be willing to listen. This lets you open the door but you're doing so with no promises, no pushing, no in-depth queries that might be too much yet, and if she says she wants to, then you may end up speaking about things more. If she doesn't do anything, I think you haven't put yourself out on a limb where you can face rejection.
Simply saying you're willing to LISTEN to her more is not setting yourself up to be rejected and hurt again. All it's saying is that you have made this long journey of self-improvement and you are willing to allow someone else who hurt you the space to apologize, etc.
My second comment is….read what True and 25 wrote…again…and again…. FTR, part of me does not envy your position right now Bro. My last comment…. What does it hurt you to accept her apology? Why not? She can only hurt you IF YOU allow it? Reconciliation is not anything I would looking at right now…that said, the fact that you even thought of it says what to YOU? Actually….now my last comments since I just read your last interaction…..
I am proud of you man! I am proud to know you!
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Much to think on.........
Why not think too much about it….and keep being YOU…. The rest leave up to God! Love ya Man! Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
