My xh has been gone longer than your xw, my marriage was longer, and perhaps most importantly I am not in a relationship with anyone else. BUT having detached, I am really not at all sure I will ever want more than a reasonably cordial relationship.

I truly do not know whether it is fear or detachment, or the passage of time, or simply somewhere I do not want to go again. But if any of this sounds familiar, you are not alone.


Yup. I' m with you 100% on your feelings/thoughts Beatrice.

Women are angels. And when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick. We are flexible