TM, I'm sure this morning will bring a range of emotions to you with your S leaving for basic, storm cleanup and just general roller-coaster induced nausea. I'm glad you had your daughter and friend to talk to yesterday.
I wouldn't worry about your son in basic. I went through it 22 years ago, and like I tell people, if I could do it, anyone could! It's not easy, but they don't give the recruits any more than they can handle.
Hang in there, and take plenty of dramamine for the coaster.
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011
This morning was more difficult than I thought it would be. We (XW #1 and her husband, my D and I) all arrived at the MEPS (Military Entrance Processing Station) at about 8. Swearing-in ceremony was outside in the parking lot-which I thought was a bit odd-around 9:30. We took lots of pictures, had a 45 minute presentation from the facility commander (Major, USMC) about what we could expect in the next few months and then waited until 12:30 when the recruits finally boarded the bus.
I held it together until S fiercely hugged me goodbye. Quickly put my sunglasses back on, hugged and said goodbye to the others, got in my car and wept until I got back to the office.
I feel like I've cried more in the last 6 months than I have in the last 30 years.
He is doing just what he wants. He's going to be very good at it. I am thrilled and so proud of him. I know he will do well in basic and flourish at the Defense Language Institute. I could not be happier for him. I will be flying to San Antonio in 8 weeks for his graduation, and he gets a 17 day leave at Christmas.
But in the last 6 months we have grown so close. We have done something together nearly every week. He became my good, mature friend as well as my son. He was there for me when I needed someone. So it was tough to see him go knowing that the days of him being "my son at home" are over.
I'm now one of the hundreds of thousands of parents who have experienced the same. God bless them all.
And to those of you here who are in active service or are veterans: thank you, And God bless you, also.
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
Strength, my friend. And confidence. Best of luck to your son. He will flourish.
H 51, W 46 no kids T 22 years M 17 years ILBNILWY 2/10 1st D talk 6/10 partial recovery W files D 5/11 long distance separation 8/11 moving forward on D 10/11 legal separation complete 1/2012
Telemark, I know it's tough watching your S grow. But I know you're very proud of him, and you should be. I've said it before, and I'll say it again - I am proud of him and I've never met him in person.
Hang on to this. This speaks volumes of the man you are and you're only getting better.
TM- I am so sorry to hear that she used email to inform you of filing for D. That is so painful and so impersonal and shows a complete lack of respect for you and for your relationship. I know this feeling well. My wife advised me of our separation by email and told me that she would not file for divorce but she wanted to live apart for a time. Then 21 days later sent me another email saying she had seen a lawyer that day and had filed for D. I will pray for you and your wife.
Me:61 W:60 M: 26 No kids ILYBININLWY AUG 10 S: 5/20/11 D filed 6/23/2011
TM I am so sorry. I wish there was something I could say or do to help you through this besides saying it is her loss. It IS her loss. Your a great man TM-we'll get through this together.
"Everyone you meet has baggage. Find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack." ¤Formerly DelinquentGurl¤
