But what I am not getting is, how will he see if I am changing and working on myself if he doesnt want to be around me?
All I can say from experience is these changes can take time... Not to sound discouraging, but really all you need to worry about right now is not getting him back by some way that you behave or change but healing... growing ... changing ... working on yourself and letting go of him..... (for now).
Give it a few months and let go.
It sounds like school is a great thing for you and your D is an important part of your life. Can you go out with friends and get involved in something you enjoy and just focus on that for a while?
He will notice ... or he won't ... but either way, the changes are FOR YOU - and they will make a huge difference in your life.
