I guess I can look at her wanting to download songs to learn in two ways
1) She is getting involved with a man from her past that she should not. And she knows that
2) She really wants to download songs to learn and they are unrelated to him. In which case she is finding a way to make herself happy. Which is a core problem. She says she is generally unhappy.
and I guess there's a 3 which is some combination of the two.
So to answer my own question. Let it be and continue to work on myself.
