I believe you have a child, correct? If so, there will be custody exchanges, etc. If you read the DB book, it will tell you about getting a life, doing 180s, and bettering yourself. He will notice the positive changes during the exchanges, even if they are short in duration.
Me: 43 W: 37 Together: 18 M: 15 D: 8 yrs old ILYBNILWY: March 2011 She Filed for D: August 2011 She moved out: Sept 1, 2011 Reconciled: May 2012 Divorce Case dropped: July 2012