I applaud you at being so strong in establishing and keeping your boundaries. I'm pretty much a flunkie when it comes to boundaries.
I was a flunkie to at first but over time I've been able establish and keep them.
Just Journaling After preparing for the hurricane on Saturday I was doing a little work from home. I was thinking about our situation and at the same time my W approached me asking what was wrong. One of my W's complaints about me has always been my communication skills. So I told her that I was thinking about the kids and how this separation was going to affect them. And as always the second I finished my sentence she took over the conversation and rehashed all the wrong I have done in the past. I told her that I was done living in the past and any isses she has ever had with me (which were valid and were things I did want to address before all of this went down) I've worked on and corrected. She then proceeded to tell me how she's such a great person and how she's loved by friends and coworkers. At this point I really couldn't hold back any longer and let her know how I see her (which I have never done). I calmly told her that she's a serial cheater, pathological liar, dishonest and sneaky. I told her that the one person that I needed to trust the most has betrayed me more than once and in my eyes that's not a good person. I also told her that I would rather live with the sadness of not being husband and wife anymore than go through the hell that we are currently in.
It probably wasn't one of my greatest DB moments but at this point I don't really care. She has this vision of herself of being such a good person that I felt for me that a mirror needed to be held up in front of her so she can finally take a look at herself. I doubt she will but it did feel good to get it out there.
There is a difference between knowing the path & walking the path. – Morpheus
