Suzy, I like the quote by Jon Kabat-Zinn. I have read the book and I have learned to meditate using his CD's....
That must have been hard living with that over your head for 17 years. I know there will be no magical switch that happens for me on September 1st..But the biggest thing is that her power will be gone. For example, yesterday--I again had to keep my mouth shut. I was at my son's football game, she needed to drop something off for my son, she was late for work, I leave the field to meet her at the entrance.
What does she do? Because I didn't walk fast enough, she throws the stuff out the window into the road screaming all the way...
Another coach was walking by and witnesses her craziness and says it is hell to be married...
I can't tell you how many things I wanted to say about how she treated me. I didn't say a word but just laughed and said to myself, in another few days, I can say what is on my mind.
If I think about it, she has had this power over me for most of our marriage...That will be my biggest relief and hopefully my anxiety will start to subside....
Remarried 6 mo S 12 S 13 S 16 SD 12 SD 16 SD 17 SS 19