Do what I can but still have questions 3

[soccerwife]

H was is a super bad mood last night. He was watching MTV VMA's, which is out of character for him, and continuously texting. I don't like hiphop music so rather than complain about the show we were watchingor the fact that he was ignoring me anyway, I went to bed. He came up a half hour later, turned on the light to wake me up, and complained, "So are we ever going to talk about this or are you just going to avoid me forever?"

I told him that I will not start a D conversation and I am not avoiding him, I just didn't like the show. So I followed him downstairs and said if he wants to talk, he can tell me anything and I will listen. He complained that he wanted to have a discussion and I said I don't have anything further to say, so he started getting p'd that I don't care about his happiness and feelings (basically, we are right back to he wants me to initiate D to make him happy, WTF?)

To de-escalate the situation, I decided to try something new... I approached this as he is suffering from depression and an empty love tank. I started with some words of affirmation. Then I gave him a massage. By the time I noticed he was getting tired, he was more rexaled, less angry, and I could go to bed without any D conversation. I was very proud of myself.

Unfortunately, he was grumpy again this morning and refused our goodbye kiss ritual.

Thank God I have MC today.