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[a girl]

Do you wear your wedding ring, DG? And is it obviously a wedding ring?

[~¤DG¤~]

Do you wear your wedding ring, DG? And is it obviously a wedding ring?

I don't have my wedding band. My ring was just a white gold band that was his Mom's. It wasn't an expensive ring at all. It got "lost" he says but I think he took it.

[a girl]

Hm. Then you're probably right to wait and see if he's "interested", but I still suggest easing into the "gory details".

And remember, there's nothing wrong with casually hanging out with someone if you enjoy their company - it doesn't have to be a big deal, so if you had fun today, you should do it again.

[~¤DG¤~]

Yeah...it was kind of fun. I'll be honest though, I don't even really know how to "date" per say. I've never had long stretches of being single before, which looking back, could very well be part of the problem.

[ncl]

Journaling---

I feel as if I have been hit by a bus.
Went out with my girls last night and got sloppy drunk. I am pretty embarrassed about it this morning. I've really got to tone down the partying.

Sometimes, you just gotta get sloppy drunk. That's part of it.

As for your brunch today, I'm glad you enjoyed yourself. You'll know if/when the time is right to share details of your situation with this guy. Trust your gut feelings.

xo, lc4

[~¤DG¤~]

My gut is telling me that as of now I don't think it needs to be mentioned, because I do not want anything other than friendship at this point. And I was feeling guilty about going, but I don't anymore. My H has made it very clear that he does not wish to be a part of my life right now, and I am not going to sit around worrying about his feelings when he obviously isn't worrying about mine.

I have also realized that all this time that H has been gone I've been thinking about him and worrying about him when I really should be worrying about me. I have based way too much of my self worth on whether or not he will want to work on our M or not, and I don't want to do that anymore. I can't say what this revelation means to me exactly, I just know that I understand it now.

[LearningPatience]

Congrats DG, you've hit the next phase of reclaiming your life! You'll still have your down times, but they should be 'shallower' downs and occur less frequently.

That's a great attitude to start your week with!

[Julz]

So it's good that you're reclaiming your life, but I thought dating wasn't really recommended? Not that you're dating. I'm just confused.

[ncl]

I have also realized that all this time that H has been gone I've been thinking about him and worrying about him when I really should be worrying about me. I have based way too much of my self worth on whether or not he will want to work on our M or not, and I don't want to do that anymore. I can't say what this revelation means to me exactly, I just know that I understand it now.

Bingo....and me, too.

[any chance?]

Good for you, DG. It is a hard realization to have, but a very necessary one, I think. I need to come to that point myself, as this limbo is more than I can take. Cannot put your life on hold. Keep moving forward!