An Apology from my MLC ex-wife

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I think that to forgive, most people need an apology. I think that is why so many of us would love to get a letter like the one you got: it helps us move on.

I got a sort of bungled but still nasty apology (basically telling me that I should forgive him). Since it was bungled and halfway, I don't put much of anything into it.

My suggestion would be to let yourself be a little vulnerable to feel the hurt. This means your wound has a chance to heal some and you have a chance to forgive and grow. This is good for YOU.

As far as opening up to ever be anything besides polite to each other, you don't have to do that. You could acknowledge receipt and allow that it opens the door for friendship, but it doesn't have to be anything else.

Your post actually made me realize that I am still on this site because I want to learn to forgive.