Well something I have been apprehensive about is rearing it's ugly head.
As some of you know, we're Catholic. The church doesn't recognize civil divorce. (They're not against it in cases of abuse or whatever, but that's a different story)
Today for the first time XW decides not to go to mass. I usually serve at an early one and everyone else sleeps in till noon. They've been going, either at noon or at 5:00 PM or 6:00 PM.
This afternoon goes by and I have to raise the subject. At the last minute 5:45 PM she did encourage D17 to take S12, but her example is obviously negative.
I completely understand her placing little importance on church after all that's happened, but our D settlement agreement says we're to agree on the religious upbringing of the kids. I'm not sure how to approach her about this. S12 still has to make his confirmation next year.
Am I making a big deal of this? What if she tells D17 it's "optional", since she herself is quite willing to blow off Sunday mass. You all know teenagers! The correct teaching for us is it is an "obligation", unless you have some legit excuse, like you're homebound or something. I've been kind of expecting this and don't know what to do.
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
