Hi, friend...was checking on you. Wow, what a few days you have had, and with your son leaving tomorrow....I'm so sorry for all the stress, frustration, sadness, ambivalence, etc. etc. you are feeling. It hurts me to see my friends hurt.
I can't help but feel sorry for your wife. I know, I know...the things she has done and are doing are just downright crazy and mean and hurtful. But I can only imagine the angst she feels inside. God works in mysterious ways in our lives; it will be interesting to see just what He has in store for your life (and hers) through this journey. Just continue to seek His will best you can, and you are going to be fine (with or without her).
If you weren't comfortable with breakfast, then good that you canceled. Had you wanted to go, that would have been fine, too. What's important is that you stand by what you told her, that you will NOT share your wife with another man. It's you or him.
I'm glad your angel of a daughter called and invited you to breakfast! I'm so grateful you have your children to give you support and love right now. I'll keep your son in my prayers as he embarks on his journey at boot camp in SA (it's HOT here in TX!!!), as well as for you and your daughter, who I know will miss him and worry about him.
Praying you have safety in the storm (may be a great time for you to listen to "Praise You in this Storm") and that you have a restful, blessed afternoon.