Ramblings and the sort from a 1st timer.

[soccerwife]

AManLost, I see no one has posted to you yet. So sorry that you are here, but you have certainly found the best place to talk with people who sympathize with how you feel.

You seem to have a solid understanding of DB. I too struggle with the fear that my GAL, AAI will give my spouse the impression that it is ok for him to follow through with D plans because he knows I will be fine. Sometimes I think, wouldn't it be better for him to stay because he is worried I will go off the deep end? But, alas, no it doesn't work that way. They have to do what is right for them. If you GAL and AAI and be the man she fell in love with, she would be a fool to end it.

Keep up the good work, post here often with your questions, and many people will be around to support you.