I have a good friend whose stbx also went awol around the same time as mine, and we have discovered that if you are in contact with them, in any sustained way, at least later down the line, you discover they are nuts. Truly nuts. Brooklyn's xh is simply an extreme and articulate version of it.
Nothing they do really makes any sense. When we are not in contact with them we don't see it, or when the contact is occasional and/or angry. When they are hurting our kids we don't see it, but when we are having exchanges that are 'amicable', we start to notice how 'off' all their behaviours really are.
It is hard to explain, but my xh really does do and say the oddest things. Life is all about them. They have no real idea of what the world is like outside of their little box - more than the rest of us. They are a mess behind a mask.
I have quite frequent email exchanges with my xh - and I am really quite fond of him, but he really isn't the person I was married to, in any way. Just a shell. Pleasant enough, after all the rage, but there isn't anything there. And others have said the same thing to me, so it isn't simply ex wife perception. It is as if a hurricane hit him, and what is left is just about holding together and functioning. But not very well.
