Reminds me a little of my XW.
Not to mind read/speculate too much but I sense from your story that she feels pursuit pressure from you, hence the brick wall.

My advice, move on, even if you don't feel like it, fake it. Eliminate the very idea from her head that you're hoping that some day the two of you will get back together. She has to "feel" like she's "lost" you somewhat.

Until then you're stuck in a dynamic and cannot move the sitch forward. It's tough, I know, her perception of you has to change.

Prayers
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Me 53 XW 50
M 18 Years +2
S14 D19
Bomb 10-24-10
Served 1-27-11
Mediate 4-21-11
Civil D Final 6-2-11
No church anullment
"A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."