IB all I can say to you is early days . . . . Feels like forever, but these guys are damaged goods, without even the ability to see it and get help.
The ones that do are rare; the ones that realise they have missed something good are rare. most of them play it out ot the bitter end, and it is bitter. I am seeing the end game now, and I would not want to be my xh. Whatever fun times he had with OW in the early days, he is starting, just starting to be dimly aware of the pain he caused others. Mostly he shuts it out and pretends all is well, when it so clearly isn't. I can see it getting harder and harder, and him wanting more and more contact with me and his kids. He doesn't seem to realise that nearly 6 years have gone by and we all have lives.
