Might be of some help to some.......

[irishblessings]

Beatrice - you hit the nail on the head! I was thinking about this yesterday while driving (which is where I ALWAYS do my thinking about this situation!) My XH has lost his ability to feel empathy for me or our kids - he is SO incredibly detached from the life we had built as a family. He has NO clue as to what it is like to raise a teen-age boy who is filled with anger. Yet this OW - she deserves all of his love, attention and kindness.

My D told me a story about a rare, but recent visit she had with her dad and OW. They attended a pro-sport event and thought it was funny that she borrowed a wheelchair so they could get better seats! My D was sickened - she had asked her dad to dinner and he said "no I made plans for me and OW to have a nice dinner out.".

His choices. Where do they come from? He is unrecognizable - but to be honest - his craziness is making it easier for me to move forward - slowly, but forward!