I have been following Tad's posts, watching and listening to what all the experts have to say.
Many of you know my situation..... I have an XW that is friendly and seems to just want things to be "nice" amongst all involved. We have done many things together with our kids in the last year. The problem is "expectations". We get together and it goes great and then I feel awful afterwards. My 8 year old daughter also feels sad afterwards.
Anyway, I reached out to my X as I have been feeling that maybe I should try and put my "expectations" away and see what happens. I told her it she could do stuff with us if she wanted and that it would be nice. I told her the kids miss her and so do I (ya, I know, 2x4 to the head for me).
My X has been 100% steady in her message to me that she has no interest in me. She has asked to do stuff together probably because I do so many unique experiences with our kids and she misses them. When we are together she has such a wall up that I am always tempted to ask her why we even bother going out.
Anyway, here is what she wrote when I suggested that it would be nice to all do something together: "I really do appreciate the offer so much. And I'm always happy to do something together...as long as it doesn't turn into you thinking it is something more. So your call."
I read on these forums the amount of people that would kill to have what I have with my XW so that has made me think I should try to put my "expectations" away and spend time with her. At the same time I also feel a huge amount of hurt when I am with her. We have such a great time together I just can't understand why we don't continue to keep that going and work on our situation.
Friends have observed that she is being 100% clear with me that she has no interest in me whatsoever. They are also very upset with her that it appears that she is just cake eating.
Not sure what to do. It would be helpful to hear from you ladies out there that were a WAW and or MLC. Thanks!
Me/W: 46/36 D7.6/S6 T/M: 7.5/6.5 Bomb 12/05/07 D final: 03/03/09
