The up the down I suppose it comes with the territory until it doesn’t.
So many times I would have a good talk and subconsciously my hopes will rise only to be dashed by a massive pullback. It happens. The shock feeling, well I can’t yet claim it goes away completely but it does get a lot better to manage.
My line in the sand was very clear, OM, once that happened I was good with letting go and for the most part I did.
It sounds like you have set a similar boundary, unless I miss read…………
Time time and more time bud, when they say it is all about you, it really it
