The year of not my problem

[AJM]

Thanks EQ. I do think about my daughter all the time. I do make it very clear that I want her in my life and that I love her. I don't invite her places. I promised I wasn't going to talk to her except birthdays and holidays. Talking with several mental health pros and reading up on things, this course of action was decided (by me) to give her time to figure things out. Her last email to me was scary in the sense that it conveyed some of her emotions but also her mother's. Clearly. There was no doubt when I read it and some of those pros read it. She needs to figure out how to be independent of her mother and I don't interfere. I simply and succinctly tell her I love her and miss her and for now leave it at that.
There are several schools of thought about how to approach the situation. Some believe I should force her to come home (I could). Others think not. I tend to believe the latter based on what I see and understand.

Thanks for your thoughts. I know it will work itself out over time with my daughter. My ex... not possible and I won't let it be. That is history and will stay that way because I am not willing to let that be anything else. That's part of what my daughter is upset about, ironically.

Later,

AJ