Believe me, Made, as soon as I read your W's message of contrition, I began wondering the same thing kind of thing for you! In my opinion (you totally don't have to go with this, just throwing out ideas here), replying in itself isn't all that bad. As long as the tone doesn't sound TOO friendly, I think you're fine. In reading your earliest communications with your W, they sound very "nice," A.K.A. "eager to please" -- the kind of tone that secretly says, "I want very much for you to come back. Please be with me! I'll love you better than anyone else, I swear!" This tone is something that I realized that I was adopting in trying to be "super best-friends" with my W. There's a big difference between being "nice" and being "kind" -- a HUGE difference, really.
In summation: If you choose to reply, be kind, but scale back the loving sentiments. I'm betting that she'll notice that they're missing, just as they've been missing in your later text exchanges.
In other news, great job on the career hook-up, my friend! Also, great job in the positive affirmations for yourself. It's easy to feel down in the dumps when the W trashes you and leaves you for someone else. This is something that I'm currently struggling with as well, but if we keep up the positive self-talk, I know we'll make ourselves better than before, brother.
