Thank you so much for your response. I was worried I would not get any feed back, and I am grateful for your suggestions. I have read Divorce Remedy about 5 times. I feel like it is my bible at the moment. I almost get nervous if I am traveling or out of town and forget to bring it with me. (somewhat of a joke) I would welcome other book suggestions on the subject of MLC. I will get busy with your link list below. Thank you.
My biggest fear about the impending separation is that he will love his solitude and living alone. My H is also, not one to waffle on decisions. Good friends of ours who know my H well, said, he has checked out and won't be back. I know the warning from MWD's books not to listen to friends advice during this time, but it is hard to totally ignore when you know your friends know your H so well. I fear H won't have the humility to admit he made a mistake. That he will just move forward at any cost. I know I can't control any of it. but it is still is a fear of mine.
I am working on me quite a bit. I have made a decision to look into a new job that will keep me at home more for my youngest son who is a senior this year. My current job requires some travel and that does not feel good to me with respect to my son and being here for him. H would always step up to the plate, he is a wonderful father, but since S and I will be in our home for this separation, I want to be here with S consistently. I don't want to have to ask H for help. I have some good girl friends who I can count on to do things together. I tend to be the type of person who withdraws when I am in a struggle, but I am aware of this and will try to stay busy and extend myself.
Thank you for you comments about the staging in MLC. I have been a little over board in trying to diagnosis where H is in the process I think. I find that anything sort of objective that I can make sense of at this time in my life is like a life jacket and I cling to any information that helps me put some perspective to this dust storm I am in the middle of.
I agree that time is my friend. I need to embrace this more.
