Wow Lucky. I admire your resolve to have to go through this a second time. I've only been through this once and metaphorically speaking it damn near killed me.
I've imagined what reconciliation might be like, but holy crap, I never even considered my XW would pull the same stunt a second time.
Enough about me. First thing, take care of yourself and your kids first. Second thing, don't go changing just for change sake. It has to be kind of natuaral, so that it isn't so much hard work, which after a while won't stick, because, well, it was just too much work and not natural. I hope you understand what I mean.
Forgive the "opinion" but from what you've written, your H sounds like a habitual offender. I admire you for wanting to save your marriage, but you should may be think about bounderies, not just for you but for him - do you think he'll ever change? Can you see the two of you growing old together?
Well (unfortunately) at least you have experience. Get yourself to an emotionally healthy place and find your inner happiness without him. Honestly I don't think he's worth crying over rignt now. You'll be getting a lot better advice than mine.
Will keep you in my prayers, Pickle
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
