Need Advice, Encouragement or Whatever (long)

[aeolianchaos]

I think you could have said less.

Saying "I'm not trying to.." and then doing things that feel like you're trying to... how do you think that comes across to her?

Talking about your changes -- most likely won't register too well.

As to why she says what she says -- I think we all learn this at some point on this board, but don't hitch your emotions or thoughts to her words.