I think that Brooklyn and Beatrice have given you good advice. The MLC'er does not like it when you move forward from where they left you. You have certainly moved. Your XW is testing you, to see what your response will be. I believe that you need to lead the way as far as your XW and your D14 is concerned. You must forgive your XW, NO EXPECTATIONS. I think as a minimum you can thank her and forgive, but anything more than that would not be warranted. She has used words not actions and you can use words not actions. Mirroring what she has done. She has not completed her journey yet, nor have you completed yours.
As far as opening the box, well I agree that is something you must do at some point in time. But I thought you had shut the door on your XW? I believe that right now you can not go back and open it back up again so easily.
But you can forgive her. And hopefully she will at least someday rebuild the R with D14
