Wow, you do tell it how it is and I appreciate that.
I know it's not about her forgiving me and then to come running back. That would be a massive turn around and I don't expect that at all, and to be honest don't think it will happen.
She knows I have changed, she has even acknowledged it a few times, and she has seen the big changes i have made to my life, career, etc.
I know I wasn't the worst husband. In some ways I was very good, but other ways I wasnt and I guess I didn't know what pain I was inflicting.
What makes me sad is that she can ignore and block the great things about us, our bond and friendship. The unique way we came together - we met in a bar in portugal and only spent 5 days together, and then 6 months later met up again in Hawaii and knew we were in love. We fought so hard to make this R work from the start.
I just married someone who has run from every hard situation in her life and has the ability to block things out and put a wall up to protect herself - that's what makes me sad. She even says we had so much potential and it makes her sad too.


M 35
W 31
Separated 2/2011 but still together
Ended it 4/2011
Together 8 yrs
Married 3.5 yrs
Lawyers involved 6/2011