All I can say IP is try not to let the anger or any emotion for that matter, dictate your words and actions. I know it's tough, but you must get "outside" the emotions when making decisions. Minimize the reasons for him to just give up and leave, If that is your goal.

BTW What is your goal (or goals)??

The DB formula is simple. Stop whatever moves you further away from that goal and note what things seem to bring it closer towards you.

God Bless
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"A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."