MHL I do hope that what I am going to write does not come across as judgmental. i think you have done a terrific job of rebuilding your life. But, and there is always a but, i remember very well when you first joined these boards, as a very committed stander and a very hurt man.
You have moved on fast, and could teach many of us old timers a thing or two about getting a life. What concerns me however is those feelings for your wife that you expressed so eloquently. From your daughter's response, I suspect that you have been nursing more hurt than you are probably admitting to yourself.
What lessons are you learning from all of this? Life is not simply the avoidance of hurt - interesting that you have that as your strapline. Maybe your wife is not sincere, maybe you have moved on fully, but it concerns me a little at how fast your feelings for your wife appear to have gone away.
Even if you cannot re-open the wounds, it is vital that your daughter learns to forgive. People we love hurt us and we hurt them, that, sadly is a part of life. Sometimes between a man and a woman it cannot be repaired, but a child only has one mother, and doesn't get another shot at having a second.
Our children matter more than anything else in this. that is what the MLCer forgets, and what we must not. You are a good man and will do what you believe to be right.
