Telemark, yes I definitely think it's a good thing H is spending his "withdrawing" time with our S7. It could be worse - he could be barhopping or searching for OW's.
Psych, awesome post, as always. You are absolutely right. I think I'm not showing neediness because I don't cry, plead, beg, and I believe that I always speak with confidence (even when I'm upset), but I am allowing H to control my happiness. I have a good life despite the stuff going on in my M. Great friends, great kids. Love, love, love my career... so it's time to start focusing on all that again.
And thanks for the support, jb.
Yesterday was good. I took Psych's advice and GAL'ed so I wasn't around to worry about when H was coming home. In fact, he texted me repeatedly to find out what I was doing and when I was coming home. I took my D16 with me and we had a great day doing girly stuff. Shopping for make-up and skin products. Then went for iced coffee and a walk in the afternoon, and a nice dinner in the evening. It was good. We got home shortly before 10pm.
H has been very attentive and sweet for the past few days. He keeps smiling at me and showing more a lot more affection than he has in the past year. It's a little unnerving because as Telemark mentioned, it could just be the whole "go away, come here" dynamic at play. Time will tell.
Anyway, H took the kids up to his Dad's today. It's a 4 hour drive and he was going to drive back today, but he decided to spend the night. He asked me to come with him but his Dad's place is small, and it was certainly a positive that H even asked, so I told him to go and have a nice time without me. I'm going to use the time to get some things done and relax. And I think I need a little alone time.
