The journey is long and rocky, but I imagine it is a huge relief to be able to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Congrats on your decision. Be strong as you move forward.
H 51, W 46 no kids T 22 years M 17 years ILBNILWY 2/10 1st D talk 6/10 partial recovery W files D 5/11 long distance separation 8/11 moving forward on D 10/11 legal separation complete 1/2012
JustStunned - I really hope this isn't a wake up call for him. I don't want to deal with his emotions or his issues outside of the context of friendship anymore. As friends, we do really, really well, but when it comes to the rest, I don't want to be on the receiving end anymore.
It's been a rough go with him from the early days. I've been trying to measure up since the very beginning and I am ready to actually have some peace in my life, to feel comfortable in my own skin and to be content.
But, if it is a wake up call, Lord help me! I will be posting like crazy and asking for all kinds of help because I am absolutely not prepared for it at all.
Start preparing TG... I have a feeling this is going to affect him in a big way.
BITS Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
Well, I've decided to continue to post about my sitch. As a way of journalling, connecting with you guys who offer so much great support and to help anybody who might happen upon these threads in the future.
I spoke with H about the D. He asked me to stop the divorce proceedings. He pleaded with me for more time. He said if things are not improved in 6 months, that he won't protest if I file.
Me: Why? So that you can have six more months of freedom?
H: No, because this is not right and I need more time. What will six months hurt in the long run?
Me: I don't know.
H: Please consider waiting six more months.
Me: I'll think about it.
H moves in for a kiss, I turn my head. He kisses my cheek and I step back.
Sigh.
Me: 33, H: 32 M: 12 years T: 13 years No kids D-Day: 7/2009 Separated: 10/12/10 Future Unknown GITS
"There's a fire starting in my heart, reaching a fever pitch and it's bringing me out the dark." - Adele
I just posted this over on TM thread. I think it applies here also.
I do not know where I read this recently or who posted it. I do remember thinking absolutely right, and not just here. Very often people do not value what is given to them freely. They value what they have had to work for
Everyone on this board has value. Everyone on this board is worth working for. If she experiences her transplant if you decide to reconsider, if you decide to sell yourself back to her, then value yourself accordingly.
I used to tell a date, I can be had, but I ain’t cheap
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
JustStunned - I have no clue what I am. Am I the WAS? I mean, in a way, I feel like I might be. But what good does it do me when I don't want to be married to him anymore?
Me: 33, H: 32 M: 12 years T: 13 years No kids D-Day: 7/2009 Separated: 10/12/10 Future Unknown GITS
"There's a fire starting in my heart, reaching a fever pitch and it's bringing me out the dark." - Adele
