Thanks for the advice everyone. H is not living with any OW or is with any OW. But that doesn't matter. His OW is his sister. lol
GF,
You're right it doesn't matter. I forgot HE is the one with the nuts from hell for a family and all their rejection of innocent kids, and crazy lazy parenting...ETC ETC...
So, you want to go to the meeting now? May I ask why? I mean, it better be b/c You are gettin' your groove ON!!
Looking good, feeling good (no, he won't think you "forgot" to love him if you appear to be healthy, content and moving on. He will MISS & WANT THAT...)
no one misses a needy clingy SAD woman...sorry but it's true. Don't be that, be the woman only a fool would leave.
So put that groove on and go out and have fun with some peeps....AND...OR
go the meeting.
Either way, let the L do the talking. All of it. That's why they are there. Make sure the L is clear ahead of time on what you want the most.
Do not respond to any provocation by h or his L. Let your L. Assume your h is an alien with piles of spew that want to spill out and believe me, YOU will have no regrets if you ignore the spew. (I can only imagine the 'fun" HIS L is having with your h as a cllient...Hey, If you feel super provoked by a lie, or a snarky comment & you can't contain yourself, you can say "you're kidding, right?" And leave him with a rolled eyes and "OMG he really is nuts!" look...
Also, neither you nor the L will have to sign or decide anything then and there (unless your h offers you all of it!!).
So don't sweat all that stuff happening at once. It won't.
When's the meeting again? I'll send hugs of support!
Good luck
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
