I'm shaking my head trying to picture them all living in a 3 bedroom condo. I don't understand what goes through some of these WAS's minds. During the time, I was feeling very unhappy in my M and seriously considering leaving, I imagined all future scenarios. Living in a condo with an OM and his mother certainly would not top of my list on how to find happiness. I really don't understand how she justifies this craziness? Maybe that's the point though, the WAS don't really "think" things through which explains some of the nutty stories we read on these forums.
Anyway, Telemark, I'm really sorry you're going through this drama. I hope the breakfast meeting goes well and that she doesn't try to pull you any further into this mess. Although, I believe you obviously have the strength and common sense not to let that happen.