Wii, well as a man I can only say I don't speak "XX" very well. My problems with attempting translation have always been a problem but with "XY" as a base it's always difficult. So what I basically state rather clearly is that I don't read minds, I don't lie and I live with honour. If a an "XX" wants to communicate with you she must have honour as well.
When I grew up I lived on the edge of a reservation. There were people among my friends and there were "people" among my friends. Once upon a time one could eat the other without a problem because they weren't "people". I get it. Cultural differences don't always translate smoothly and I look forward to going to China soon to see just how out of place I am.
Now, as for "Coffe Buddy", we know that was a close miss. What can you do to get guarantees from the newest model without either you or her losing honour?