Standing for my live-in MLC'er/WAS

[angel61]

Hi Cyrena - the latter part of his MLC? dare I hope.....

No, too early, I think. The other night, I just had a dose of his MLCness.

D12 was down in the dumps, crying, the night before the first day of school.

I sort of got motivated to talk to H about D. I started by saying that D is now grwing older, and that her needs are chaning -what I posted in a previous post.

H reacted by blaming me! He said I had asked him not to talk to her! I could not for the life of me remember that, and he said it was because I said that it was good that D12 was confiding in me and I didn't want her to think I was breaking words said in confidence to me. This was during the time she had cut herself! And I never meant for him not to talk to her, just not to let her know he knew! I tried to explain....

Then he starts to tell me he will not listen to me anymore, and that he will parent his own way, that I should not meddle.

I almost lost it....I told him that this was not a blame game. That parenting together means we have to coordinate, or else we will have one confused child.

Even divorced couples have tolearn to co-parent. That basic ground rules have to be established.

He was being so illogical about things that I just realized just how deep he is in the tunnel.

Cyrena, thanks for your concern with my D. I will check her computer and make sure I guide her in understanding MLC. We did talk a little more about our moving, and have decided to try it out some more at home... and with the chool. She does have close friends, but because of all the drama, and being together in a tiny class of 30 something for the 9th year now, I think is taking its toll.