Wow, TM... how bizarre when the LBS is finally in a spot of accept and surrender... and of moving on...
when finally... that dream situation that the LBS dreams about through the whole process happens...
and the LBS reacts in a way that is... healthy...
You are doing great...
Even the "reveal" of your statement about loving your W but not sharing her with an OM...
Just be there for her... I would like to suggest that you do not have to hold her at arms length though... if you feel strong enough to let her in a bit, without being sucked back into her drama...
OM MAY or MAY NOT be there for her... if you are not a safe or rock for her... she might yet find another... she might find another, anyhow...
Just saying that if you are strong enough... *shrug*
