I now measure each moment in my life as good when I don't feel like I have to throw up. I feel like I am going through the day sucker punched continuously. He will leave in the next week or so. I tried to get him to move out immediately per the advice of my DB coach, but he said he couldn't do that with the lease agreement.
My question for anyone out there is this: How do I act with him now that he has finally taken the initiative to move out? Do I act like the friend he would like to come home to? (he would like this, much cleaner for him) Or do I go dark?, which I know something about but I could use some helpful tips with this, as it is not my nature.
Whatever you DO, should be so that you do not feel like what is in BOLD above.
You need to work on feeling better about yourself and your future.
There is NOTHING that you are going to DO that is going to change him.
WORRY about you and your sons, and let him worry about what HE is going to do.
Personally I suggest going dark and the link is above, but the general consensus is to let him control the contact and MIRROR him.
