Telemark - I already have. I've said "Please don't contact me unless it pertains to S7 or division of assets". He has, for the most part, adhered to that, but the contact he pursues that meets that criteria seems excessive - example, sending me a 5 paragraph mail about asset stuff that was 90% information I didn't need, and then following with a phone call. Same thing with S7 - lots of extraneous information, hugely long emails.
There have been a couple of "not necessary" contacts, but in general, it's just over the top communication about things that are technically S7 or division of assets.
H: 39, Me: 37 SD: 18, S: 7 M: 9, T: 10 "I love you but am not in love with you" - 5/11 Discovered online affair - 7/11
Oh, and one more thing to note - in the most recent email, as well as in a couple others, he's said things along the lines of "Since you won't talk to me on the phone or when I drop S7 off .." or "Since you don't ever want to talk to me .."
H: 39, Me: 37 SD: 18, S: 7 M: 9, T: 10 "I love you but am not in love with you" - 5/11 Discovered online affair - 7/11
Having a reasonably good day, all things considered. My night with S7 tonight, then happy hour with friends (and the "friend) tomorrow, then Ikea on Saturday!
H: 39, Me: 37 SD: 18, S: 7 M: 9, T: 10 "I love you but am not in love with you" - 5/11 Discovered online affair - 7/11
H came by to get stuff today (which I had agreed to). Sent a very detailed email about what he took, what things he'd like to take, blah blah. I just said, "That's all fine. Thanks!"
Anyway.
H: 39, Me: 37 SD: 18, S: 7 M: 9, T: 10 "I love you but am not in love with you" - 5/11 Discovered online affair - 7/11
Sounds like he just wants to make sure you are around. This is what is so hard about having kids and seperating. I am dreading having to talk or see H at all. At this point I just want him to go away.
I hope you have a great weekend. Sounds like you have some fun plans. Enjoy happy hour. Have a drink for me.
Paige - that's an interesting thought. My boss theorizes that he wasn't expecting me to just "go away" from a "contact" perspective, which is why he mentioned several times that I won't "talk to him".
I honestly don't know what's going on in his head - I'm not even sure he does, at this point.
H: 39, Me: 37 SD: 18, S: 7 M: 9, T: 10 "I love you but am not in love with you" - 5/11 Discovered online affair - 7/11
It's only been a short time for you to adjust to this change in your reality, but I'm sure you know that some days are more of a struggle than others. The thing is to keep plodding along. I promise you'll make progress.
Me: 33, H: 32 M: 12 years T: 13 years No kids D-Day: 7/2009 Separated: 10/12/10 Future Unknown GITS
"There's a fire starting in my heart, reaching a fever pitch and it's bringing me out the dark." - Adele
I need to stop trying to understand why he does what he does, but it's hard.
I hear ya there! I know for me, If I understood the why.. I could fix it.
I'm really just trying to live in faith right now. Faith that God has me exactly where he wants me to be. That I don't need to understand why only that he loves me and will take care of me.
That helps curb the "Why's" for the most part.
(( ))
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
