Do what I can but still have questions 3

[soccerwife]

Chaos and Pickle, Thanks for the conversation.

Ya, I think I am feeling all of those negative feelings now because I am losing hope. I really thought my M was different, that we could get through anything, that I had the power alone to change my M. Now I am not so sure I am anything special or that my M was unique.

My mother-in-law was left w/ 2 very young kids and no money. She turned into a very negative person. She is strong, no doubt; she raised 2 successful boys, and is a very independent woman. But she is mean, uncaring, and cold. My H never was close with either of his parents because they taught him to be distant and unemotional. He never showed those traits to me, he even condemned them, until recently.

I realize that it is my choice to be better than that, thanks for the encouragement. I will try to not let H's selfish actions define me.

Chaos, about the support thing, you are completely right. I will be changing that wording to something else. I can't support his actions. I can be there to support him in his time of pain though. Huhm???