CTH, I always said that too "I close no doors" but I wonder if that is the route to take for either of us. There's nothing wrong with being co-operative, supportive (depending on the issue e.g. childrearing)but it's really not your job to affirm her anymore. Be careful with the affirming thing, it can look like you're trying to get her back and that can raise an ugly head. If I recall one of her major complaints for a while was that you hadn't given up. Try not to do "more of the same". Just thoughts, but I'm damn proud of you for the effort you are putting into bridging that large divide between the two of you. It's an enormous benefit to the kids.
