Living with your Ex

[soccerwife]

I imagine the laws are different in each state about living together after D. I have read places that if you live under the same roof after D, the financial aspects change. For instance, no allimony payments while living together.

I only briefly mentioned this to my DB coach and she suggested that I not provide any details, I should be as vague as possible, let H do ALL of the work, come to me to initiate conversations and present ideas. That is hard because he gets angry and thinks I don't care about his feelings when I don't want to participate in his plans for D (rock and a hard place).

You are right though, that no decisions should be made without consulting a L to find out what the options/rights are.