Just found your thread and haven't had the time to go back and look at it. I've been meaning to look at Piecing and since you are in the PNW, that intrigued me. Hoping to learn more from you guys her in Piecing and hope to start some Piecing of my own.
I like Sage's suggestion about getting some sausage if that is what your H wants. If he does ask what you want, I would suggest being VERY CLEAR unless he does not have an open mind to suggestions or talking in your LL (disadvantage not knowing much about your history yet).
As a man, and one that is guilty of not speaking my W LL of emotional connection, passion, and conversation, I would fall asleep pretty quickly after ML. My W is the passive aggressive type and would never come right out and tell me what she needed, she assumed I would figure it out on my own since I'm a bright guy in the rest of my life.
I'll tell you that doesn't mean I'm bright when it comes to picking up on my W hidden messages. Like you, she would do somthing to me (like cuddle or talk or whatever) that she would hope I would do to her. I had no idea that is what she wanted from me. I thought that she wanted to do it otherwise she wouldn't be doing it. If she wanted somthing from me or me to act a certain way, I assumed she would just come out and ASK for it. I would LOVE to do it because there is nothing more I want than to make her happy. Other guys I think would feel the same.
Instead, she never asked, she quit trying to subliminially send me messages, and the resentment built up too much it boiled over. So what am I saying, I'm saying to CLEARLY COMMUNICATE what you want. Not the big picture feelings, emotions, etc - he may never GET than, I know I wouldn't. But the SPECIFIC actions he can take. H, I would like it if you caressed me, held me, hugged me before and after ML. I would like it if you talked to me about how you felt after ML. I would like it if you talked passionately while ML. Or whatever. I, as a man, think we are like goal oriented dogs, we need specific direction of ACTIOINS. If you tell us the house smells like dog pee, we'll keep peeing inside. If you tell us to pee outside and where, we will pee there. IMHO.
