And anyway in her words, she feels it is better to not have any contact as it would 'give me false hope'.
I really am pushing it uphill here with what I'm battling against!!
We all are Cam.
Believe ZERO of what the WAS says, and only 50% of what they do.
A rule that I have learned is very true.
Nice job with the text this morning.
Listen to Country. No rush with this. Take the time to do it right.
Send the letter and then go all LRT on her a$$ for 6 weeks.
BITS Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
My little 9yr old nephew, W's sisters son in FL, just sent me a message on facebook saying hi and he misses me. he and I had a special bond, he was my little buddy......so hard to remove myself and detach when things like this happen. Just makes me sadder to think I will probably never see him again and won't be part of his life. I hate weekends too, it's so tempting to call my W and find out what she's up to. My imagination just runs wild on the weekends as to what she's up to, whether she has been with another guy etc. I know I can't call her and I won't.
M 35 W 31 Separated 2/2011 but still together Ended it 4/2011 Together 8 yrs Married 3.5 yrs Lawyers involved 6/2011
My little 9yr old nephew, W's sisters son in FL, just sent me a message on facebook saying hi and he misses me. he and I had a special bond, he was my little buddy......so hard to remove myself and detach when things like this happen. Just makes me sadder to think I will probably never see him again and won't be part of his life. I hate weekends too, it's so tempting to call my W and find out what she's up to. My imagination just runs wild on the weekends as to what she's up to, whether she has been with another guy etc. I know I can't call her and I won't.
You and me both Cam. Be strong.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
You know I dreamed of the perfect life, perfect wife, perfect job, house, family, friends etc. I had it all and I didn't know it......I f'd up everything I had and I've lost it all and most likely will never get the chance to redeem myself or get it back. I was a sh!t husband and I own that and know my faults. I guess I just married a very unforgiving person who got sick of putting up with my crap, and in reflection I don't blame her.
M 35 W 31 Separated 2/2011 but still together Ended it 4/2011 Together 8 yrs Married 3.5 yrs Lawyers involved 6/2011
I was a sh!t husband and I own that and know my faults. I guess I just married a very unforgiving person who got sick of putting up with my crap, and in reflection I don't blame her.
It is not about her forgiving you. You think if she'd just forgive you and commit to the M again, that everything would be grand. You are sad that she isn't giving you a chance to prove you've changed. I don't believe it works like that. Just b/c we forgive somebody who made our life miserable....doesn't mean we would want to continue to put ourself in that position again.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
I was a sh!t husband and I own that and know my faults. I guess I just married a very unforgiving person who got sick of putting up with my crap, and in reflection I don't blame her.
It is not about her forgiving you. You think if she'd just forgive you and commit to the M again, that everything would be grand. You are sad that she isn't giving you a chance to prove you've changed. I don't believe it works like that. Just b/c we forgive somebody who made our life miserable....doesn't mean we would want to continue to put ourself in that position again.
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got to make the changes cam...
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
Wow, you do tell it how it is and I appreciate that. I know it's not about her forgiving me and then to come running back. That would be a massive turn around and I don't expect that at all, and to be honest don't think it will happen. She knows I have changed, she has even acknowledged it a few times, and she has seen the big changes i have made to my life, career, etc. I know I wasn't the worst husband. In some ways I was very good, but other ways I wasnt and I guess I didn't know what pain I was inflicting. What makes me sad is that she can ignore and block the great things about us, our bond and friendship. The unique way we came together - we met in a bar in portugal and only spent 5 days together, and then 6 months later met up again in Hawaii and knew we were in love. We fought so hard to make this R work from the start. I just married someone who has run from every hard situation in her life and has the ability to block things out and put a wall up to protect herself - that's what makes me sad. She even says we had so much potential and it makes her sad too.
M 35 W 31 Separated 2/2011 but still together Ended it 4/2011 Together 8 yrs Married 3.5 yrs Lawyers involved 6/2011
