Still Crazy After All These Years...

[sleeper]

...Today is my youngest D's birthday...He called gushing that ow's daughter almost had her baby on D-13's b-day...

Did he grow up in a broken, "blended" home?

My mlc X did. She sees us as one big "blended family".

Your mlcer may not realize the pain he's inflicted by holding the birth of ow's d's child above his own as he expects your D to be just as thrilled at the birth of a new member of his "blended family".

My X and her brother also have boundary issues as a direct result of their family history therefore my observation may be skewed.

Can you show up at her room in the maternity ward with a cake and a bunch of your teenage daughter's friends with noisemakers/boombox and celebrate the two birthdays together?