I haven't posted here for quite a while but I think this thread is interesting. I have been divorced now for a little over a year and completely separated from my ex for almost 3 years. I slept with a girl I met after the 3rd date but I knew her a couple months before that. I thought it would make me feel better but it made me feel like crap. I broke it off with her and then didn't sleep with anyone else. That was 1.5 years ago.
I have been dating someone now for 4 months and we have not slept together. The intimacy is better, the talking is better, and the making out is better! When it does happen it will be great.
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
Violin: Sounds like you have discovered one of the greatest truths about intimacy. It does not come from being physical - it is so much more. Any 2 people can "do it" but a great intimate relationship involves the mind, body and spirit. It also involves some commitment on both sides.
Some people are looking for sex. Others want more.
I actually believe that physical intimacy too early in a R can destroy that R! It becomes the R and getting to know each other becomes secondary to getting it on. I speak from experience. It's easy to pound the sheets together, it's harder...uh, more difficult to do the other stuff.
It is an interesting idea that physical intimacy can ruin a relationship but, what is too soon? We have not slept together but there is lots of making out and fooling around. She is waiting for marriage to have sex with someone. yikes!
I mean, after you marry someone and sleep with them does the marriage become only about getting it on? Who is to say that waiting is any guarentee of success?
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
