I still visit these boards, I'm divorced and very happy in another relationship so take what I say with a pinch of salt.
You have had so much good advice you are one of the lucky ones, your wife is still invested,just see how angry she gets, that my friend believe it or not is your biggest asset.
Have faith in yourself to be yourself and watch the results.
Search for a guy named Nomopo, don't know what happend to him but every time I read your sitch he pops im my head
In the words of the guy I admired the most (Bworl)
Blessings Charlie
Me 39 W 39 D8 S5 Married 13yrs Together 20years EA June 06 Ilyninlwy Jan 07 Seperated Jan 07