V, I truly appreciate your perspective on this. I'm trying not to look at it as a "date" but just two acquaintances getting together after work for a glass of wine and some chit-chat.

But I know that I am nowhere near ready for a "relationship" and until our D is final - and regardless of what my W and OM are doing - I will not date or pursue other women.

OmegaZed, it is surprising what you can endure and rise to when the situation requires it. I don't think I did anything special; I prayed a lot, tried to do the right thing and in the end I knew I was not going to verbally or emotionally spar with my W.

H 56
W 48
D27,S21
SS25
SS22 Severely autistic
M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs.
"I've never loved you" 3/7/2011
Separated 8/7/2011
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