My faith gives me the courage to move forward

[25yearsmlc]

Thanks for taking the time to post. i text h and asked how his mother was. He said she is stable. i told him to tell her" thx for all she did for us, and that we love her" when she gets in a regular room im going to send flowers and a card from son and i. i dont feel i am welcome to visit her. the last time we spoke 1 yr ago, we argued that she let ow live in her house.

does this mean that you got angry at her? And you FEEL=FEAR now you are not welcome to visit her? Or are you punishing her?

So, in sum, the post I and many others wrote about NOT letting fears prevent us from saying what we ought to say, or to show up for family b/c they are family
made no difference?

My mil did bad things to us and our kids for a long time. But I showed up for her last days anyhow. Your mil was kind to you and your son.

Who knows what your h told her about you as a w or about the OW?
You have admitted you had flaws as a w.

Maybe your h threatend to withdraw from his mom's life if she didn't allow them in. Maybe she thought she was helping her son...she is his mother you know.

What if she passes away? I mean, she WILL PASS AWAY and I worry it's going to happen without you making peace with her. She was a good grandma to your son and for most of your m, she was good to you.

I think you'll regret not reaching out and letting bygones be bygones. I would.